You are unique, be kind to yourself

You are unique,

different,

 the only one a kind and unlike anyone else!

You are an original,

a masterpiece,

so start acting like it!

When you try to be like someone else, you devalue who you really are.

Do not compare yourself to others for there will never be a fair standard to use.

Discover who you are, what you like and embrace what sets you apart.

You are more valuable than rubies and gold!

You are irreplaceable and there will never be anyone like you.

Learn to love yourself a little more and be kind to yourself.

Be patient with yourself

You also deserve to be loved and cared for, and who is better at loving you more than you?

It is when we love ourselves and value who we are that others enjoy being around us.

someone once said that you teach people how to treat you. When you love and respect yourself, others will soon follow suit!

Love

Bonolo

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What is hidden in your heart?

Lately, a friend of my friend has been asking me a lot of questions about my heart. I did not understand why she considered that important until she reminded me that God looks at our hearts when we speak. That words and actions alone are not enough. That got me thinking about how people always talk about secrets of the heart and even got me wondering what secrets my heart holds.

After careful thinking and consideration, I have learned that I still have a lot of pain and sadness from losing my parents ages ago. It has been 19 years since I lost my mom and 12 years since I lost my dad and I was so sure that I was completely over losing them. I used to believe that time heals all wounds, therefore by now, I should not have any feelings of sadness or of grief. I even considered myself an expert on grief but clearly I did not know anything about it!

I always avoid family gatherings and family holidays. Until I learned the truth about what was in my heart, I thought that I only avoided family gatherings only because I do not like big crowds. I have been avoiding family gatherings because they reminded me of what I did not have. The longing to celebrate with my own parents and just the wonder of how things could have turned out if they were still here.

A lot of things started to make sense from then on. I realized why I did not celebrate big events in my life like my 21st birthday and my first graduation. At that time, it was a reminder that the people that mattered the most to me were not there. I sometimes wonder who would walk me down the aisle on my wedding day and whether our kids would get a chance to experience the warmth of having grandparents. It is weird that such a small thing can affect a lot of important decisions one makes.

So, my questions to you is; What is hidden in your heart? Is that thing stealing your joy and your peace? Is it hindering you from growing and flourishing? Get to know your heart and deal with past hurts so that you can move forward in your life with freedom for pain, past hurts or anything that is preventing you from living your life to the full. Now that I have discovered what has been pulling me back, it is time for me to deal with it and move on. It is not going to be easy but I know that prayer always works.

People say that time heals all wounds, but I believe that God heals and restores all broken hearts.

Love

Bonolo

You are powerful!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who am I not to be?

You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously  give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from out own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Poem by Marianne Williamson

It is easy to forget how amazing and powerful we are. Sometimes we belittle ourselves or compare ourselves to others and forget that we are all different. We may be in the same journey, but our purpose is not always the same. 

Hebrews 13:21 May He equip you with all you need for doing his will. May he produce in you, through the power of Jesus Christ, every good thing that is pleasing to him. All glory to him forever and ever! Amen.

you are loved!

Bonolo

A brand new day! :)

Today is a brand new day, rejoice and enjoy it. There will never be any other day like today. How you decide to spend it and whom you decide to spend it with makes a all the difference.

I always try to start my day with a grateful heart and appreciate the gift of a new day. I am grateful for what I have and get excited and expectant of what is to come. I speak life into my life by saying what a wonderful day it is going to be and how productive it will be, depending on what I plan to do. And the most important thing I try to do is to not say anything negative about the day, no matter how bad the weather is! 😉

Enjoy every moment of your life. Even when you are going through tough times, try to embrace and enjoy the little moments that makes you smile or laugh. It is so easy to miss the wonderful moments in your life because you are only concentrating on what is not going well at that time.

This is the day the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24

Have a wonderful day

Bonolo

You are not alone!

Have you ever been in a room full of people and still felt lonely? Do you feel like you are all alone and you have no one to talk to? That no one cares about you and what you are going through? If you feel that way, know that I made this page just for you. 🙂 so already it means there is someone who cares. A stranger you don’t know is thinking of you and has decided to tell you that you are not alone.

It is true that i do not know what your situation is and what you are going through, but I have had times in my life when i felt lonely among friends and family. At some point I felt all alone in the world without anyone to talk to or ask for help. That was the saddest times in my life.

You may feel like there is something missing in your life and that nothing you do or no one seems to fill that void. I tried partying and drinking and it didn’t help. Once the music stopped and the alcohol wore off, I was still feeling the same way.

That is usually because we yearn for God’s love in our lives and no one and nothing can fill it. The only way to fill the void is to accept God into your heart as your Lord and savior. When you accept Him in your heart, you feel at peace and you stop worrying about the little things. Your problems don’t go away but the way you look at things changes. He encourages us to not worry about anything but pray about everything and promises to gives us peace in Philippians 4: 6&7.

He calls us and says we should come to Him all who are burden and weary and He will give us rest. Are you not tired of doing everything in your own strength?

I remember feeling all alone when I was 19, I didn’t have food, got chased out of my place and didn’t have anywhere to go. Since I lost my parents at a young age, I felt helpless and alone. So I wrote 3 sets of letters, one for my mom, then my dad and the last one to God. It was the longest letter ever and I cried my heart out to Him. I was really angry at Him and blamed Him for everything that went wrong in my life. I think starting that conversation and knowing that God was listening, made a difference.

Things started to change from that day. My old school teacher took me in to stay with her family and they provided for me. I was still angry at God for a while, but it opened up the conversation. So, my advice is to start the conversation either through prayer or write Him a note. Say what is in your mind and wait on Him. He promised to never leave you nor forsake you, so give Him the benefit of the doubt. If He can help me out, He surely can do the same for you.

You are not alone.

Bonolo